Sunday, October 12, 2008
Surgery went well!
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Updates
Thursday, October 2, 2008
Tentative Travel (yay!) and surgery (YUCK!)
We got an updated picture of him yesterday and he looks happy and healthy. It looks like he might be growing into those chubby cheeks of his! We also got an updated weight, which will help us to know better what size clothes he'll be wearing. A couple of days ago we also got some video of him! It was from a couple weeks before we got his referral, so he's much younger in the video than he is now. His cheeks were HUGE! So cute. We got to see his smile for the first time! In the video he coughs a few times and then smiles. He looks adorable when he coughs and his smile is so sweet!
We got tentative travel dates today! If all goes well in court (probably sometime in the next couple of weeks) we're scheduled to travel on November 1st!!!!!!!!!!!!! However, I also got some bad news today. I went to the doctors a couple of weeks ago for some pain I was having off and on. She sent me for an ultrasound and then a CT scan a week later. I had an appointment with her on Tuesday and she said that I need to have surgery to remove a 5 inch by 5 inch abdominal mass (most likely a cyst related to endometriosis). She won't know until they open me up whether they can do a laparoscopy (recovery in 1-2 weeks) or a laparotomy (recovery in 3-6 weeks or more). She told me Tuesday that they would try to schedule the surgery for as soon as possible. The office called me today to say that the surgery was scheduled for 10/22. The nurse said I would be fine to travel on 11/1 if they do a laparoscopy, and that I could "possibly" travel that soon after a laparotomy. I don't like "possibly". I left a message for the doctor to see if we could put the surgery off until after we travel. The doctor called me back the one time today that I walked away from my cell phone. She left me a message that they're going to try to reschedule the surgery for SOONER, but it will all depend on the OR schedule. The nurse is going to call me tomorrow to let me know if they were able to reschedule the surgery. If they are not able to, I'm going to ask to have the doctor call me again so I can find out if we can push the surgery back. So, I guess I'll know more tomorrow. Please pray! I know that God has been in control of this entire process from the beginning and Jonas is our little boy. We want to be united with him as soon as possible, but I'll trust my loving Father.
Saturday, September 6, 2008
September Update
Jonas is generally very content…and happy! He loves to laugh and smile, and does it often! His personality is coming out more and more. He loves interacting with people and is very responsive to attention. He loves sitting in his Bumbo seat….he sits there and smiles, or he gets so comfortable that he falls asleep!
I can't wait to see that smile!
Monday, September 1, 2008
Life While We Wait
On Saturday we also finally cleared the last of the office things out of the room that will now be Jonas'. We also finally picked the paint color for the room. It's good we waited because we've changed our mind about the theme of the room. Originally we were going with a Winnie the Pooh theme, but we saw a bedding set at Babies-R-Us that we really like. It's kind of an African Safari theme with a lion, an elephant, a giraffe, and monkeys. The colors are rich browns and greens (two of my favorite colors). Ray noticed it first and said it looked like something for African royalty. I was sold!
Next on the list is actually painting the room, setting up his furniture, and gathering donations for the Transition Home and the Orphanage. We'd like to bring donations of diapers, formula, and clothes and toys for older kids. If you have any gently used toys or clothes you'd like to donate, please let us know!
We've been waiting for 5 weeks since our referral. If all goes well we'll have our court date sometime in October and travel sometime in November. Please keep praying with us that we'll not have any court delays!!
Friday, August 8, 2008
Thankful
Friday, July 25, 2008
OUR REFERRAL DAY!!!
Terra told us that they would be trying to schedule a mid-October court date for us. They need to do this before the courts close on August 7th. Otherwise they will have to wait until October to ask for a court date, and it could delay things. Please pray with us that they are able to do this! I've seen my son's pictures, but now I want to hold him, kiss his chubby cheeks, and know his personality.
We're praising God for all he has done and will continue to do to unite us with our son, Jonas. The Hebrew meaning of the name Jonas is "Gift from God". We are so thankful for his gift.
Sunday, July 20, 2008
Exciting News
Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Alicia also sent some bottles, a pair of booties from South Africa, a stuffed chick that says "Rejoice! This is the day the Lord has made", and a book titled "Adopted and Loved Forever." I made Ray read me the book while I was making dinner. I know. I'm a dork. :)

Alicia and I have been friends for about 28 years. Pretty much since we ourselves were babies (2 year olds). It's fun to get to share having our own kids now, even if we live a few states away. (Thank you Alicia!)
One more thing just for fun- I don't really drink Coke, but since the new series of cans for the Olympics came out, I've wanted to get an Ethiopia Coke can. I was at a party this weekend where they had them, so I snagged one. It says Coca Cola in Amharic. It also says Ethiopia really small. Since it's the series of cans for the Olympics, it says Bejing 2008. So again, I'm a dork, but I'm going to keep the unopened can because it has Amharic, the probable birth year of our baby, and it says Ethiopia.
Saturday, June 21, 2008
How things are goin'
Our agency had a conference call a couple of weeks ago, and it came at just the right time for me. I'd been feeling a little discouraged with the process. I read on an AWAA blog that the wait time would be increasing from 5-7 months to 7-9 months for a boy or either gender request. I was discouraged by the added wait time, and a little confused by the fact that now the wait for a boy and the wait for a girl were equal. Though we requested either gender we assumed we'd get a boy because the wait was longer for girls than for boys. So we've been talking mostly about our little boy. We've picked out his name and we use it whenever we talk about him. But with the wait time even-ing out for boys and girls, getting a girl is more of a possibility than it was before. That is fine with us. We requested either gender because we always wanted to be open to whichever gender God wanted to give us. But it was a little disorienting to suddenly feel like we couldn't say "when Jonas comes home...." when we would refer to our baby. We started thinking about girls names again. We're starting to say things like "I can't wait to meet him...... or her." In the midst of the confusion and discouragement I started looking at other agencies that have adoption programs in Ethiopia to compare wait times. I read on one agency's website that their wait time was 3-5 months for either gender. I found a blog of someone adopting from that agency and they had just received their referral after waiting only 3 months and 1 day. I felt like it wasn't fair. So, that brings me to why I felt better after our agency's conference call. Our program director had just returned from spending a month in Ethiopia. One of the things she was doing there was looking for other orphanages to partner with. She shared that child trafficking is starting to be a potential issue in Ethiopia, and she said that she didn't feel comfortable with a lot of the orphanages she visited. If they seemed too eager to "find" babies for us, she didn't enter into an agreement with them. She reminded us that their goal as an agency is to find homes for children that truly need homes, not to be a baby factory. It reassured me that our agency is being thoughtful and cautious about this.
The good news is that AWAA did partner with a new orphanage, called Gelgela Orphanage. We've already had some referrals for familes out of that orphanage this month. I think the total number of referrals from the 3 orphanages this month is 8. That's more than most other months so far! It looks like we might be able to expect a referral around the end of August or September. Our agency has told us that if we receive a referral during the court closures (Aug. 7th-Oct. 7th) we can expect to travel about 12-16 weeks after we get our referral.
So, that's how things are going with the adoption. Thanks for asking! :)
Sunday, June 1, 2008
Mighty to Save
Many of you in the yahoo group are most likely already aware of this, but Lisa and I wanted to let our family and friends not on the group to know of the drought and famine conditions currently facing Ethiopia. Here are two links to CNN articles about it:
http://www.cnn.com/2008/WORLD/africa/05/20/ethiopia.children/index.html
As you might imagine, we've been wondering if our baby has been born yet and how much this crisis might be affecting the baby and his or her birth family. This makes the situation very real to us, and we wish we could do something to change it -- not just for our child and his or her birth family but for everyone. Of course, the one thing we can do is pray, and we ask that you would join us in praying for Ethiopia and its people.
The lack of rain during the rainy season has caused a drought that affected this year's crops and is causing the famine. It has also affected hydro-electric power to the point where scheduled black-out times are in effect, and no power causes delays in the adoption process because emailing, faxing, court hearings and other things dependent on electricity cannot take place. So not only our wait but the wait of many other "expecting" families might increase. So we ask that you pray for all of us expecting from Ethiopia as we trust in God's timing.
I've been thinking a lot lately about the song "Mighty to Save" -- probably because we sang it at our annual conference meetings this past week. The chorus has just been playing again and again in my head; it says:
My God is mighty to save; He is mighty to save
Forever, Author of salvation; He rose and conquered the grave
Jesus conquered the grave
Saturday, May 31, 2008
He did it!!

Operation Graduation was a success! After 4 1/2 years of hard work, stress, procrastination, and more hard work, Ray graduated with his Master's of Divinity from Northeastern Seminary last weekend. We're thankful for the education and spiritual mentoring that he received from the Seminary, and that God provided from him to go without taking out any school loans. We're also thankful that he's done!!!! The majority of our marriage has involved having his homework hanging over our heads, so we're looking forward to this new freedom. :)
Saturday, May 3, 2008
More of God's Provision!
Dear Ray and Lisa,
On behalf of our co-founders, Steven Curtis & Mary Beth Chapman, and the Shaohannah's Hope team, we rejoice with you in your decision to step out in faith to experience the miracle of adoption. It blesses us that you have chosen to make Shaohannah's Hope a part of your adoption process, and we are pleased to inform you that you have received an adoption assistance grant in the amount of $3000.
YAY!!!!! We're so blessed! The letter went on to talk about how and when the money will be sent to our agency, America World. Shaohannah's Hope ended the letter by saying, "It is our prayer for your family that you and those walking this path with you will see God glorify Himself throughout the adoption process- as he proves Himself to be faithful, provides the finances from various sources, and as He reveals His great love and care for the child that you are adopting." We have definitely seen God glorify himself throughout this process, not just with our finances, but with everything. We're so excited to be building our family this way!
Some of you have asked us where we stand on the money end of things. I've listed all the expenses for the adoption below. We have already paid the Application & Paperchase fees, as well as the Dossier Submission and Waiting fees. I put the expenses we still need to pay in orange font. Remember that in the last couple of months we have received $2000 in gifts toward our adoption, and now the $3000 adoption grant. So that can be deducted from the total I put at the bottom. We've also been trying to save as much money as we can, and we're throwing around the idea of an adoption fundraiser. Anyway, here are the numbers:
APPLICATION & PAPERCHASE
Application Fee $250
1st Installment of Program Fee (w/Pastor's discount) $750
Home Study $1,650
Additional Home Study Documentation Prep. Fee $0
Home Study Visit Travel Fees
(could include mileage, hotel, and food costs) $0
Documents/Background Checks/Passports (estimate) $150
USCIS Fee & Update Fee + Fingerprinting $830
Notarization, Certification & Authentication $400
Courier Service $150
DOSSIER SUBMISSION & WAITING
2nd Installment of Program Fee (w/Pastor's discount) $750
Post-Adoption Report Deposit
(fully refundable if all post-adoption reports are returned) $1,000
Dossier Service & Translation $600
REFERRAL & TRAVEL
International Specialist Consultation $100 - $400
3rd Installment of Program Fee (w/discount) $550
International Program Fee (1 child) •• $3,450
Airfare (2 adults) ••• $2,400 - $4,000
Airfare (1 child) ••• $250 - $1,000
Visas (2 adults) $40
Visa/Embassy Fee (1 child) $400
In-Country Travel Package (2 adults) •••• $2,800 - $3,200
POST-ADOPTION
Post-Adoption Visits (Already pre-paid) $1050
Post-Adoption Visit Travel Fees $0
Re-Adoption (In NYS) $300 - $1,000
Other Costs
(include doctor visit and related co-pays, social security card, passport cost, postage, long distance phone calls) $100 - $1,000
Total expenses already paid: $7580
Total expenses yet to be paid: $10,390- $15,040
In some ways I guess it seems like we still owe a lot, but I have full confidence that we'll come up with the money we need. Our God is an Awesome God!
Saturday, April 26, 2008
We're moving up on the waiting list! Today marks 3 months and 1 day since our dossier was sent to Ethiopia.
The estimated wait time for a boy request or an either gender request is 5-7 months. That means that the earliest time we might hear something would be the end of June. If that happens we may be able to have our court date in July and travel in August. The courts in Ethiopia close in August and September, so if our referral comes after June we probably won't be able to get a court date until October at the earliest. We'd prefer sooner than later, but we know that if it doesn't work out that way we can wait a few more months. What's a few months compared to all the years we'll have with our child after we meet him or her? We're just so excited that we're in the process that will lead us to our baby and we're resting in God's timing for it all. In the meantime we're enjoying our last few months as "just the 2 of us."
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Unexpected Gifts
First, our friends Anita and Dave just got back from a denominational conference that most of the church staff attended. Ray and I really loved the conference last year, but weren't able to go this year. Ray is still working hard to get all his papers done, and I'm saving all my vacation time for the baby. Anyway, Anita ordered all the sessions to be sent to Ray's email in an MP3 file so that we could hear the speaker! She also knows how much we like Herr's potato chips. We could buy Herr's in any store in PA, but no where here in NY. So, she bought us 3 bags of Herr's chips. :)
Next, a friend from our small group gave me a necklace of Africa today! She said that one of her friends made it by hand when they were involved in a ministry called Kenya Kids Project on the campus of Roberts Wesleyan College. Meg, our friend, said that she doesn't wear the necklace often, and she thought maybe I would like to have it. I LOVE it! Meg mentioned that she tried to move the bead from the Kenya spot to Ethiopia. I'm not sure if she was able to move it or not, but Kenya is right below Ethiopia. So, I have a hand-made necklace of Africa with a bead on Ethiopia. Here is a picture of it. I told Meg that I would wear it every day. She probably thought I was kidding, but I was pretty serious. :)

Finally, amazingly, we received another large gift toward our adoption today. A couple from our church who had looked into adopting from Russia at one time let us know a couple of weeks ago that they were interested in helping to support our adoption. Today they gave us a card that said: "We hope that your adoption is progressing well. How excited you must be in anticipation of God's wonderful gift to you. We'll pray for you as you take this step of faith and embark on this awesome journey. May God bless your family!!" Inside the card was a check for $1000!!!! The Lord continues to amaze us by the generosity of his people.
Saturday, March 22, 2008
Wowzers
But this blog isn't about my progress in completing my MDiv. It's about our journey to adopt our first child, and, wow, do we have a big part of that story to share!
About a week ago I was leaving the office when Anita, one of my co-workers and closest friends, said, "Hey, Ray. Someone stopped by and put something in your mailbox." So I went over to my box and saw a white envelope.
Whoever dropped it off had typed "To: Mr. Raymond and Lisa Hammond" on a computer, printed it, cut it out and taped it to the envelope. I held it up to the light and could see the outline of a bill but couldn't tell the denomination. Thanking Anita for letting me know, I put it in my pocket and went home.
After pulling into the driveway and parking the car, I entered the house, greeted Lisa and said, "I think someone gave us some money for the adoption," and proceeded to tell her about the envelope. She was as curious as I was about it, so she told me to open it.
I opened the envelope and stopped, staring inside it. My hands began to tremble a bit and tears came to my eyes. Lisa, who was standing a few feet from me washing dishes, said, "What is it?" "It's a stack of hundreds," I replied, my voice barely above a whisper. She started to cry and came over to where I was standing. I began counting and realized that someone had just given us $1,000. I was speechless. There was nothing inside to indicate who had been so generous to us. Only another computer generated, cut-out message that simply said, "Hope this helps with the adoption. God bless!"
God bless indeed! We knew from the start of this journey that God was going to provide for us as only he can when it came to financing the adoption. We have been saving and doing our part, but we knew that God would have to make up the difference. He has been providing for us since day one of our marriage almost seven years ago, and we have never doubted his provision. But this latest time blew us both away. He is so good; in fact, his goodness and steadfast love is so great that we can only struggle to find adequate words to express it. Yet despite our inability to adequately verbalize it, we shout our praise out to him, for there is no god like our God. None compare to him. He is the one who said, "I am the first and the last; apart from me there is no God," (Isa. 44:6b).
Saturday, March 15, 2008
Sleepy Time
In mid-January, Lisa started talking about getting a crib. Somewhere along the line she decided to search Craigslist for one, and she found a couple of promising ones only to get return replies that the cribs had already been sold. In mid-February, she found one posted by someone in Hamlin -- which is like 15 minutes from our house.
We went to look at it and really liked it, so we ended up buying it. It's like 4 years old, and we got it for a good p
For Christmas, I had bought Lisa a bedding set for a crib, so once it was
Of course, I never figured on the doorway being too narrow for the crib to fit through! lol! I figured that since it went through the doorway from the kitchen to the living room it would fit fine going into the baby's room. But it didn't. And even if it had, I'm not sure we could've made the turn required to enter the room anyway. So I took it all apart and carried it in piece by piece. Now it's stacked in the corner, and I prolly won't put it together until sometime in mid-May because by then I'll have graduated!!
Well, gotta go, but one more thing before I do. Lisa told me that a couple of you want to hear the song I wrote. That's a bit of a stretch for me to put it on the site for peeps to hear, but I'll get over it and figure out a way to get it on there so you can hear it.
Friday, February 29, 2008
Families in Ethiopia
http://daveandrae.blogspot.com/
http://www.wegnersethiopianadoption.blogspot.com/
http://www.ouradoptionstory-blessed.blogspot.com/
http://emilyandmichaeltreadwell.blogspot.com/
Sunday, February 10, 2008
Dossier update
Joy!
22 Because of the LORD's great love we are not consumed,
23 They are new every morning;
24 I say to myself, "The LORD is my portion;